Marriages are made in heaven, but destroyed on earth !!!

If marriages are made in heaven then why people who are getting married do not get the chance of choosing their own partner? If god in so perfect in making the couples then why does most of the marriages fail because of mis-match?

This thought usually came in my mind, whenever I used to see, the increase in the marriages failing these days. I can’t stop thinking that, what could be the reason of people getting married and then parting their ways from each other? I would certain blame society for this, rules made by society often reflects in the way, how partners are selected? This may not the so bad everytime, but most of the mis-matches happen because we dont get whome we are supposed to get and we cannot accept what we get? I think this is the reason, " Adjustment" is more associated to a marriage these days than "Love and Commitment". Human psychology reveals that an average mind always tries to weigh his earnings against what he should get? This might sound a bit hysterical,  but its true.

We always feel that we should get the best of everything and when this doesnt happen then the problem starts. We live in an illusion of being the best and always think, "I am born to get the best". This is everyone's thought, if everything is good then what is bad? The defination of "BAD" is very subjective in nature, It changes from context to context. Couple blame their parents "BAD" for not giving them what they wanted. Parents blame to the customs for being helpless in not giving their children, what they wanted.

Yesterday I was watching some scenes of a daily soap and was surprised to see that, when India is approaching to the most advance and openness of its ideas. The strains of those rotten customs are still borne by us and we are happily taking it as a quality to make ourselves called “civilized”. How much helpless a family can make its girls to choose their life partners, and why we cannot give this privilege to those people who are getting married. Why always family has to impose their ideas crushing the wishes of their children, ruining their life and happily saying, “My children are well civilized, that they will never oppose our decision”

But I still feel, this is not the fault of the parents to think like this. When there are so many references of failing relationships in the world, giving a committed relationship to their children, is what every parent will look forward. But for this, is it necessary always to go against the children and pressurize them to take their decision in choosing their partners.

Surveys say, the chances of breakups in these types of relationships are very high because there is always a feeling of hatred and revolution which burns the whole relationship. One should understand, in an attempt to make the lives of our children happy, we are making the actual happiness of them, as they will never forgive you for this. After this, you might sleep in the night thinking, you have done the best of things for your child, but actually when it comes to reality, you find that you have made your children your own enemies.

How hard is to understand the feelings of your children, when it comes in taking such a vital decisions? Please come out from the parental cast and try to be a friend to your child and then see how much close you can go to your child.