A Tearful Separation !!

I was watching some reality show on TV yesterday. It was on a marriage. There was a scean where the bride cries hugging her mother and seeing this, everyone present there started crying. After a long time, tears came in my eyes and I wanted to cry. With a heavy heart, I went to the bed room but broke there, my wife who was sleeping there, woke up surprised and consoled me.

Now, when I remember this whole thing, I don’t understand, why I cried? Is this was a reflexive effect seeing them crying or something different. It was a heavy feeing, I have seen many emotional sceans on TV, but haven’t felt like this. I realized the pain of separation between the girl and her parents. The doubt of whether, she would be able to meet them or not, broke me down.

Looking on the broader angle of this, this is very much normal. Every girl has to leave her parent’s house one day and go to her in-laws house. She has to think that house as her own and forget her parent’s house. But WHY???? I am surprised, who made this rule and why?? . They were not humans to make this type of rule. I understand that, these type of rules were made by someone living a male dominated society,  but why didn’t they thought of the after effects of this rule would make? They didn’t thought, that they are acting selfish against one gender and favoring the other one.

Parents give us birth and give us their love and nourish us. They take all the pain and give us all the happiness. They think about their child first and then about themselves after that. If this is applicable to all the children then why girls are deprived of taking care of their parents and boys are not. We say that god created all of us even this world, then Why didn’t he oppose to such Hippocratic rules?

Ancient epics say that “Kanya-daan (giving the girls)” leads to the path of heavens. But how come, this is possible; giving a part of your body is not so easy. How can this act be so great when it shatters so many hearts? How can this act be so great when it is not pleasant? How come gods are happy on this act when the separation if so much tearful.

And after all these things what a girl gets in her hand. She leaves everything behind to build a new world and she gets hatred, ill treatment, physical abusement and finally burnt to death. Out of those 7 commitments which she takes in the marriage, only 1 is fulfilled. That is, “The bride will come to house and only her dead body will leave the house”. 

I always feel, there is no right of any man to even forget what her wife has done for him. He should realize the pain of this separation and no one else can bear this pain. He should owe his life always to his wife, as she will be adding colors to his life. He should realize that, given a chance, he couldn’t do what his better half can do. “Better Half” …people have forgotten the meaning of this. They are so much engrossed with their greed and hunger; they forgot that she is their BETTER half.

Seeing all these, just one thing I want to ask to god, “Why didn’t he oppose this human sin, when he saw the first girl leaving her parents. When he is so much powerful and able, then why didn’t he stopped this tearful separation or he enjoyed it “…